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Extreme Prejudice

During a recent trip out of the country, I had an “A Ha” moment that I’d like to share with you. For the first time in my life I realized that there is only one way to be prejudiced about anything.

  • Never seek out knowledge or experience of anything outside of the world in which you want to remain certain is the only way it is.

It seems like a pretty simple formula doesn’t it? However, if you look closely at the things in which you have a prejudice towards, it is highly likely that you know very little if anything about it. Christians disagree with Muslims and Muslims disagree with Christians. Republicans think Democrats are nuts and Democrats think Republicans are even worse. Americans think the world revolves around us and the rest of the world thinks Americans are a bit delusional. Pick your poison…how much does each ‘really’ know about the other?

I remember like it was yesterday meeting a self professed and proud member of the white supremacy group, Klu Klux Klan in 1995 and watching with amazement over the course of a week his entire paradigm being shifted…because for the first time in his life he was experiencing actually being around African-Americans in every capacity that he was otherwise ‘taught’ was unacceptable.

During a coaching symposium that I ran, he came and did not know that I was an African-American. I didn’t know that until the second day of the five-day program, his roommate who was a good friend of mine pulled me aside and shared the following.

“Brett, did you know that Jim (not his real name) is in the Klan?” he said.

“No I didn’t, how do you know that?” I replied.

My friend then continued, “When I went into my room Jim looked despondent and I asked him what was wrong. He then proceeded to tell me that he was in the Klan and was really confused. When I asked Jim why he said, because in the KKK we have three important tenants."

  1. Black people are to never be in positions of authority.

  2. Black’s are to never teach white people.

  3. You’re never supposed to intermix in an environment like this.

"My problem is, Brett is in charge of the whole thing and he’s Black…all of the instructors that we’ve learned from so far are Black…and I’ve been around all of these athletes that are Black, Hispanic, Russian, Korean, and they are the best wrestlers in the world. I’m blown away by what I’ve learned from them all already…this is not what I was told.”

After learning about this I didn’t acknowledge that I knew about Jim’s membership in the Klan for the rest of the week. By the end of the week here’s what he said to me.

“Mr. Penager, I just want you to know that this has been the greatest week of my life. I learned more this week than anything that I’ve ever done before. If you ever make it back to Ohio (where I’m from and he lived), I’d love to have you come and teach my team and speak to the entire school.”

I thanked him for his offer and he then gave me a big, breathtaking bear hug. He kept in contact with me every year for 10 years afterwards. I haven’t spoken to him in years and don’t know if he’s still in the KKK or not, however this I know; once he was exposed to the culture and environment that otherwise he was secluded from and fed hate rhetoric, he found out the truth and it changed him forever.

I’ve traveled the world and here’s what I would encourage anyone to do. Get outside of your bubble in every arena and learn about a culture, religion, point of view, or group of people that you currently do not understand and have some biases towards. As my great mentor, Van Carrigan says, “The opposite of success is positionality.” How about getting off yours by actually learning about that which you are currently prejudiced…I bet what you find will change you and your point of view forever.