Many of you, including myself, spend the upcoming holidays with our family. Whether it is blood, extended, surrogate, or in-laws; it’s still ‘family’. Like the 1966 classic movie, most of us have within our families, “The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly”. As crazy as it may sound…it’s all beautiful.
Some try to deny, disown, our own blood relatives because, “they’ve got issues”; as if ‘we’ don’t? Some try to make their families the epitome of Camelot when in fact behind closed doors, “they’ve got issues”. I think it is fair to say, “Let he who has no sin cast the first stone.”
The reality is that EVERY family has issues. One is truly no better than the other for all it takes is a little truth telling and a bit of digging and I bet I can find the challenges I face with my family in any of yours! Regardless of your particular viewpoint of your family or that of others, they remain forever linked to us because they are just that…family.
During my five plus decades of living, I’ve met a lot of people. Some were here for a season, others for a reason, and a few for a lifetime (at least thus far). As I think back to friends and acquaintances through the years I often wonder how they’re doing, what they’re up too and what ever happened to them. Though I don’t know many of those answers, I know who does, “their family”.
No matter how bad we screw up, they love us anyway. No matter how wonderful the world says we are our family always brings us back to earth. Of course when you’ve seen what they have for as long as you’ve been alive, it’s easy for them not to take you so dang serious and important. They’ve seen us go through the terrible two’s, the know it all traumatic teens, the sowing our wild oats twenties, and the growing into adulthood thirties (about the time that we really start to appreciate our parents by the way).
They’ve lived to tell about the psycho boy/girlfriends, the marriage/divorces, the family squabbles, the sibling rivalries, and lo’ and behold…they love us anyway. They are the one constant that no matter what happens in this wild and crazy life remains the same.
Friends will come and go, our careers may rise and fall, we will experience failure and success; and this will always be true: Family is forever.
Some of you may be reading this and go, “Well, this sounds all good and all but you really don’t know MY family. They’ve got some unbelievably serious issues.”
And I say to you, “Yes I do. And I love you anyway…family.” Thank you for loving me.